The best dos and don'ts for students using dating apps

These days, many students try using dating apps to meet new people, have fun, or find someone with similar interests. Dating apps can be helpful if you are shy or busy, because you can connect with others without needing to bump into them by chance. But using them well means knowing some rules so you are safe and comfortable.

Whether you live off-campus student housing in Edmonton or elsewhere, you’ll likely meet people in person after matching online. It’s extra important to know what to do and what to avoid when using dating apps to ensure a safe and enjoyable experience. Here are some tips to bear in mind, along with practices to avoid.

Dos: What helps

Here are some good habits to follow when using dating apps. These help keep things kind, safe, and fun.

Be honest and clear in your profile

• Use recent photos of yourself that reflect who you truly are. 
• Write in your profile what you are looking for: friendship, casual dating, serious relationship, etc. This helps others know what to expect.
• Share your hobbies or things you like to help start conversations.

Respect boundaries and consent

• Ask before you share personal or private images or information. If the other person isn’t ready, don’t push it.
• Respect it if someone says no, stops replying, or seems uncomfortable.

Take your time to talk

• Don’t rush from chatting to a meeting. Get to know each other a little, ask about interests, values, and daily life.

Protect your safety

• Always meet in public places for the first time (coffee shop, public park, etc.).
• Tell a friend where you are going, or share your plans.
• Keep personal info private until you trust the other person well enough.

Be kind and patient

• Messages can be misread. Be polite and patient.
• If someone doesn’t respond, don’t assume the worst. They might be busy.
• Don’t pressure anyone for intimacy or contact.

Use features meant to protect you

• If the app lets you block or report a user, know how to use those.
• Use privacy settings: limit who can see your profile or location, if possible.
• Take breaks if chatting becomes overwhelming or too stressful.

Don’ts: What to avoid

These are several things you should avoid doing on dating apps — here are a few to consider.

Don’t overshare too fast

• Don’t share your address, full name, workplace, or university emails too early.
• Don’t share secrets, passwords, or private photos.

Don’t lie or exaggerate

• Don’t use very old photos, or lie about your age, job, or studies. That can lead to disappointment or distrust.
• Don’t present yourself as someone you’re not; it’s harder to be comfortable later if you build things on false ideas.

Don’t push for contact if the other isn’t ready

• Avoid pressing for in-person meetings too soon.
• Avoid pushing someone to share private info or intimate content.

Don’t ignore red flags

• If they avoid showing their real face in pictures or refuse to video chat (if reasonable), they might not be honest.
• If they pressure you for money or gifts, this is a warning that they could be scamming users, so consider cutting off contact.

Don’t compare too much or worry about “matches” only

• It’s easy to feel bad if people have many matches or seem more “popular.” But it’s okay if your pace is slower; quality matters more than quantity.

Don’t forget self-care

• Don’t stay on dating apps if you feel anxious, rejected, or stressed. Take breaks.
• Don’t let hopes or worries about dating interfere with your studies or rest.

Conclusion

Using dating apps can be a good way to meet new people and grow your confidence. Following the dos and don’ts above can help you enjoy positive experiences in pursuit of making new connections.